A spiritual lesson I learned a long time ago...I share with you from deep love + light:

If you DON'T FEEL JOY. If Something doesn't click or feel right for you.

Examples:

If you don't feel "part" of your spouse/partner's world + it doesn't resonate with you + you feel disconnected.

You go to mommy play dates & don't dig the convo going on & it feels forced + fake.

Your relationships look transactional & you are not interested in that. You want more.

Everyone around you loves THIS & THAT, and you just don't.

Like maybe your over 50, & what typical 50 year olds do for fun, you are like really!!?? No thanks.

Maybe your 21,

Everyone in your age group enjoys a,b,c & you don't. You enjoy x,y,z.

You have a huge ass giraffe dream & everyone around you can't see, feel it, or understand it Bc they are fine + dandy living hamster dreams.

You haven't found a fitness class that jives with you.

Maybe your innovative ideas are constantly shut down at work.

Maybe your needs in any aspect of your life {Financial/ emotional /spiritual /social /personal /physical} have changed & your environment is supporting the old ones.

Alert! You are not crazy!

You are not wrong!

Your soul is talking.

It's singing.

Whispering.

Shouting.

When you have people places or things that do not support or fit or click with your soul- you can feel

Alone.

Question yourself.

Defeated.

And feel nuts!

You aren't!!

TIPS

1-when you honor your feelings and don't let people talk you out of them YOU ARE set free!

2-surround yourself with people places and things that get it + Vibe with you BC ITS EMPOWERING.

3- be a leader. If you are the only one seeing/feeling something, then stay strong & Brave & accept YOU are a leader & stay the course of honoring your soul.

4-I always say-

Regular life stuff will always go on like:

Being tired from a hard day of work

Sleepless nights with kids

Money stuff

Holy sh&t experiences

Cars breaking down

Having to do lists

Butting heads with someone

ETC ETC

**BUT- when you are at your core + foundation---around + with people places and things that vibe and fit with your spirit and soul***

A JOY IS ALWAYS HAPPENING.

It's a natural outcome of where you should be.

You should not day in and day out, feel like you're struggling or Battling upstream or constantly questioning your values, vision, feelings, & dreams.

Stay strong

stay the course

stay brave and let that frequency in your soul radiate out into the world so it attracts exactly what you need! Life is meant to be a gift!!

Only when you are in alignment and in tune with your real deal authentic true self-----will extra wonderful amazing top-of-the-line blessings and goodness -----happen for you!!!

Not just good. But amazzzzzing!!

Whether it's in your business

 in your relationships 

In your career 

In your friendships 

In your home

In your parenting

In your life

and IN every single possible thing!!!

YOUR TRUTH

YOUR VOICE

YOUR PASSIONS

YOUR PARTICULAR VIBE + SOUL

YOUR.

Real. Deal.

AUTHENTIC Self---I'm telling you----it's where magical unicorn type sh$t happens!!!!!!

Everything else, is an illusion:)

Remember you can always be positive and have a positive mindset but that doesn't deny the existence of stress or difficulties or shit

Can be both!!!

Just means we CHOOSE to believe + FOCUS on faith and goodness over the shit!

EXAMPLES:

you can be a mom, love your kids to death and feel like they are the reason you were born and your purpose and you have never felt this kind of love AND AT THE SAME DAMN TIME, feel like you are losing your shit and don't know how you will make it through the day bc you are exhausted and frustrated.

CAN BE BOTH.

you can love your career, feel blessed to have it and have a kick ass salary and wonder how did I get so lucky AND AT THE SAME DAMN TIME, still want more, move up or change careers, or explore your options of growth and change in your career.

you can be sensual and provocative AND AT THE SAME DAMN TIME love God and be spiritual. 

"I want your whiskey mouth, all over my blonde south." - Lady Gaga lyric

"what would people think if they hear that I am a Jesus Freak, there is no denying the truth." -Dctalk Lyric

You can love both those lyrics AT THE SAME DAMN TIME.

You can love your spouse/friend/family to death AND AT THE SAME DAMN TIME, not want them in your daily life and love them from afar.

You can love your spouse/friend/family and feel like you hit the jackpot with them AND AT THE SAME DAMN TIME, want more love, more romance, more involvement.

APPLY THIS TO ANYTHING! acknowledge ALL PARTS OF YOUR FEELINGS AND SELF!

fitness tip:

if you have less than 20-30 pounds to lose: 

BE PERSISTENT. BE CONSISTENT.

BE PATIENT (which is hard for us all in all areas of our life).

THE POINT IS: focus on ounces, not pounds lost.

focus on clothes being looser, not entire sizes.

focus on being able to do more situps, more squats, walk longer and farther and feel stronger.

Focus on your self worth & value more than how many almonds you ate!

WANT MORE PERSONAL STUFF?

book a ONE ON ONE SESSION. boom! mic drop.

I REPEAT: don't hide your magic. NEVER APLOGIZE or get talked out of your feelings!!!

 

PS: sign up for the 30 day MOTIVATION  if you CAN NOT  do a one on one.

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SHOW UP.

There are so many ways to show up.

They are individual to each person's spirit and vibe.

HERE ARE two ways to show up:

WAY #1

Words of wisdom from Mariah Carey in her song "Obsessed"

"I am the press conference, you're the conversation."

or

"You are grasping for air and I am ventilation!"

"I can see through you, like you are bathing in windex."

whoop! Preach!

Why are people so focused on you and challenging who you are, how you dress, how you parent, how you do business, what you believe, or how you live your life?

People, places + things are going to hate on you, judge you, and rain on your parade, regardless. SHOW UP ANYWAY.

AS YOURSELF.

ROCKING YOUR BAD- ASS FULL SELF.

Remember, people are meeting you at their level of perception, belief, and experience.

You keeping doing you, and live extraordinary and drop a verse from Mariah Carey, next time your day is affected by someone or something that ruffles your feathers!

WAY #2

Pick your battles. Not every single tiny one is worth your energy and focus. 

My life is full and busy with kids, marriage, business, working, a home, goals, life events, and regular day to day stuff like doctor appointments, car stuff,  cooking, laundry, packing lunches, changing diapers, and LIFE LIFE LIFE STUFF.

I don't have time + energy to waste on petty stuff.

Remember that movie from the 80's

"adventures in babysitting"?

And the scene when they're on the train and the gang is scaring the crap out of the babysitter and the three kids that she's watching!!

And he throws a knife in the teenagers foot and says,

"don't fuck with the Lords of hell"

Haaaaaa

Then, the babysitter takes the blade out of the teenagers foot and shoves it right back in the gangs face and says, "don't fuck with the babysitter"!

Haaaaaa

So of course these movies and what we all watch have different meanings!

But today- this is what it means for me:

On the outside and on the surface the gang looks rough and tough and has respect from the world.

They have the look. They carry themselves flashy + look + feel  that powerful part. And the world sees it and knows it!

Everybody bows down to them.

But...then...Here comes the babysitter.

The minimum wage plain Jane babysitter.

She's not doing anything exciting, except watching some kids.

The world + masses, would never think that is prestigious or a big deal or something to admire her for

But she owns it, she claims it, and she shows up fully + unapologetically and says don't fuck with me!

And in that one moment:

her brilliance 

her bravery 

her smarts 

her wisdom 

Her life experiences 

Her nurturing protective caring loving spirit 

and everything that she's been through up to that point---ARRIVES.

She is showing up and saying

HERE.. I. mother- fucking. AM.

I pick this one! I am showing UP.

I'm smart I'm resilient I'm brave I'm capable and I've been through more stuff than you can imagine + I can can hold my own!

TIPS:

If on the surface you ever ever ever say to yourself:

I'm just a mom

I'm just an admin assistant

I'm just a nail tech

I'm just a woman

I'm just this or that 

and on the surface, maybe no one really thinks it's that cool or that impressive

I'm just.....

1-never use the word "just"

That takes your empowerment away!

2-Let me remind you that the ones that show up the most 

That have so much street CRED 

that are so smart 

that are so brave + resilient

the ones that read the books + have Full life experiences

the ones that listen and have been in the depths

The ones that have been through some shit

the ones that are truly resilient and amazing and their brilliance shines out of their eyes and smile and soul on an every single day basis:

THEY Are the ones that don't have all the flashy, look at me propaganda!!!

They might not drive a fancy car.

They may not show off on social media.

May not win awards.

They may not have degrees.

They may not look impressive or have celebrity prestige to the world.

They may not wear designer clothes or show off.

But let me make it very clear:

THEY ARE the light workers 

the healers 

the brave powerful women making waves!

TIP: stand in your power today 

And show up very brightly  +

Never dumb yourself down + never think that you're "JUST" and 

SAY LOUDLY TODAY:

"don't fuck with the babysitter!"

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3 tools for you

1- COMEBACKS:

If anyone or anything is pissing you off or frustrating you here are some one-liners to say :

I'm the press conference you are just the conversation.

You're grasping for air, I'm ventilation.

-Mariah Carey "obsessed" lyrics

Always and forever party till we die.

-Andrew w.k lyrics

I can't feel my face when I'm with you.

-The Weeknd lyrics

My style can't be duplicated or recycled.

-Missy Elliott lyrics

2-HEALTH TIPS

Schedule your workout in detail.

Use music. If I use music I have a killer 110% amazing workout vs just a "good" one without music.

Try new foods + experiment with them.

Confidence: stand tall + look people in the eye + practice radical self empowerment!

*WORK WITH ME set up a one on one session. ITS LIFE CHANGING.*

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3- MUSIC PLAYLIST below for you!

Ps Frank Ocean's "spotlight" is my summer jam! Love it! 🎶