4 things IMPACT your joy
I love this book the four agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz!
One of those books you can read over and over and over!
The 4 agreements are summarized below and they're awesome!
My favorite is take nothing personally :it has nothing to do with you
and assume nothing :which translates --communicate communicate communicate --to make sure you are not enduring unnecessary suffering!!!!
Can't we all think of examples when we have created unnecessary suffering?
In our minds especially!
When it wasn't really going on, but we were assuming things or not really clear on the situation or person's intentions or whatever!! Work, personal life...
Example: someone says to me: "wow I hope one day you get a bigger studio because this is really small. "
(My brain hears: The studio isn't good enough. Defense attack mode in my brain goes, do you have any idea how hard I have worked to have this and sustain it & how much I LOVE it & it's a gift!?)
Solution: me asking out loud to them and communicating "what do you mean exactly by this is so small!?"
They might say : you're so great at what you do and I love coming here you & deserve a big huge space so more people can come!!!
WOW: imagine if I didn't communicate and I just assumed and made something up in my head & got bent out of shape!!! Unnecessary suffering!!! Boom!!
You can apply this to when somebody compliments you in a off beat way or questions you or make statements that don't click with you or in the workplace or your personal life or in the grocery store!
Be a light & be authentic & communicate in a loving way---so if you're on the receiving end...hearing it, it's in a loving way, like you would want to hear!